This year on my retreat with the Lord, my focus was on praying for my husband and for allowing God to help me figure out what I wanted in a husband according to His word. He helped me do this with a different twist: through a movie. I have always loved the movie "A Walk to Remember" and I really felt like God was asking me to watch the movie and figure out what it was that I liked so much about both characters. So, one of the evenings, I popped some popcorn, sat down and watched the movie with paper in my hand to write down what jumped out at me about the characters. When the movie was over, I looked at the characteristics I listed and almost all of then were Biblical.
I have never been a "list" girl in regards to what I want in a man. I am in several other areas, but this seemed to be "off limits" for me. This was the year to make the "list". I always am hesitant to talk about a "list" in regards to a future husband because of two things: 1) I don't want to be disappointed and 2) I don't want to put God in a box. God helped me to come up with a list according to His word but also according to who I am. The beauty is that He is constantly adding to it and changing it (in a good way). I am not one who cares about the material things, but rather the immaterial things...things that matter in a long lasting relationship.
HUSBAND
1. Priest- Be able not only to teach, but be knowledgeable in the Word and lead our family with God as the center.
2. Provider- Someone who will provide for our family spiritually, financially and wisely...all with integrity.
3. Protector: Someone who...
- Protects me and my family physically from harm or danger
- Fights for me and stands up for me
4. Someone who is trustworthy and that I can trust completely in
5. Someone that makes me feel small in size (not belittling or demeaning)
6. Someone who sees my independence and responds to it lovingly BUT who also allows me to be weak and vulnerable (even though I will want to fight hard against it)
7. Someone who will take care of my car issues and things that make me feel vulnerable (taking care of the problem, whether that is fixing it himself OR taking it somewhere)
8. Someone who listens:
-to what I like
-to what I need
-to what I have to say
-to me
9. Someone who pursues and romances me (like Song of Solomon talks about)
10. Someone who will ask permission (of the important people in my life) to marry me
11. Someone willing to comfort me
12. Someone who is respectful of me and my issues
13. Someone who is creative
14. Someone who makes and uncomfortable situation comfortable
15. Someone who I feel comfortable in my skin around
